12 Birthday This or That Questions for Party Fun

Birthday parties already come with plenty of choices, so This or That fits naturally into the celebration.

Keep these questions open on one shared phone, read each pair aloud, and have everyone choose the option they prefer. Guests can answer out loud, point to a side, or take turns explaining their picks.

There are no correct answers and no score required. The fun comes from seeing where everyone agrees and which choices split the group.

12 Birthday This or That Questions

Start playing right here:

1. Cake OR Cupcakes
2. Balloons OR Confetti
3. Big Party OR Small Party
4. Pizza OR Tacos
5. Music OR Games
6. Chocolate Cake OR Vanilla Cake
7. Morning Party OR Evening Party
8. Dress Up OR Stay Casual
9. Gifts OR Experiences
10. Photos OR Videos
11. Indoor Party OR Outdoor Party
12. Dance Party OR Game Night

Turn It Into a Birthday-Person Prediction Game

For a more birthday-specific variation, let the guest of honor become the answer key. Before each reveal, everyone predicts which side the birthday person will choose. The birthday person records a private answer on the phone, guests vote, and both answers are shown together.

1. Begin with easy predictions such as cake or cupcakes and chocolate or vanilla.
2. Move to party-style choices such as big or small, morning or evening, and indoor or outdoor.
3. Finish with gifts or experiences, photos or videos, and dance party or game night.

A correct prediction can earn one point, but scoring is optional. The birthday person is allowed to say “both,” “neither,” or “it depends” when a pair genuinely does not fit; simply remove that question from scoring. This keeps the variation centered on knowing the person rather than forcing an artificial answer.

If the celebration includes young children, skip points and let them guess aloud. For a surprise party, collect the birthday person’s 12 choices in advance and keep that answer key with the host.

The answers can become a bridge to the next part of the birthday without controlling real plans. Music or games and dance party or game night can help the host choose an optional activity already available. Cake or cupcakes and chocolate or vanilla can start a dessert conversation, but the vote should not imply that the actual menu will change.

For adults or older teens, gifts or experiences and photos or videos often produce stories. Invite one, then return attention to the birthday person. For children, keep the questions concrete and let pointing count as a complete answer.

Play From One Shared Phone

What You Need

• One phone with this game open
• Your birthday party group

The basic birthday round needs no answer key and no winner – only a way for guests to show their side.

Quick Play

1. Open the game on one phone.
2. One person reads the first pair aloud.
3. Everyone chooses the option they prefer.
4. Compare the answers or let a few guests explain their picks.
5. Continue through all 12 pairs.

At a busy party, keep one reader; at a smaller table, rotate the phone after each question.

Reveal Everyone’s Choice at Once

Simultaneous voting keeps a larger birthday group from copying the first answer they hear.

Choose one signal for the first option and another for the second. Guests might point left or right, raise one or two fingers, or move to opposite sides of the room.

The host reads the pair, counts to three, and everyone reveals a choice together.

The simultaneous reveal is clearest on short birthday choices such as:

• Cake OR Cupcakes
• Balloons OR Confetti
• Pizza OR Tacos
• Dance Party OR Game Night

There is no winning side. Once everyone reacts, move on to the next pair.

Print If You Prefer

If paper is more convenient for your party, you can print the question list for personal use and read from the page.

All 12 birthday choices fit on this page, so a printed copy is merely an alternative for a seated host.

More Birthday Games to Play

If the group wants another activity afterward, switch to a different birthday game style.

Related options include:

• Birthday Would You Rather
• Birthday Most Likely To
• Birthday Scavenger Hunt

This or That keeps the choices quick, while other games can add hypothetical scenarios, voting, or movement.

Pick a Side and Keep the Party Moving

Read the pair, choose your favorite, compare the group, and move on whenever everyone is ready.